Sometimes I read blogs, watch television or listen to the stories of friends about their woes with men. There’s always a complaint. Always.

And while I do not believe in the adage that states that all men are DOGS, I do believe that, most men are opportunists. If given the opportunity, they WILL. End of story.

That being said, after perusing several blogs over the past couple of nights, I just had to go on record as saying that I am very glad that I usually do not form any type of emotional attachments to men. A lot of people say that it makes you ‘slutty’ or that you’re simply keeping your guard up b/c of something that happened in the past. I say, so what? I don’t care how anyone chooses to look at it, I have always prided myself in being a woman that didn’t associate love with intimacy. I have always been proud of the fact that I didn’t feel the need to get ‘clingy’ just b/c a guy passed me a bit of peen. Like many of my friends are doing right now, I had to learn the hard way.

I feel bad. I really do. I don’t knock women for being open with their emotions or hearts b/c let’s face it…we’re human. What are we suppose to do? Detach ourselves from all human emotions and live like hermits with solemn faces? We can’t.

For relationship purposes, I think that it’s pertinent that we all start to respect one another’s hearts. I don’t know why it’s so hard for some to state their purpose from the door. I believe that it saves a lot of confusion. I remember I met a guy and we began the whole ‘getting to know you’ phase. Incidentally we went on several dates and during one of our conversations while on one of them, I told him that right now, I’m simply ‘chillin’ and trying to get “me” together. He said that he ‘understood how that goes’ and hoped that we could continue being friends. Well, we ended up sleeping together and suddenly, he didn’t fully understand what I meant when I said I was ‘just chilling.’

……..I thought you meant in that moment?

Wow! I started to call him out about the whole ‘well-can-we-at-least-continue-to-be-friends’ bit but I quietly digress.

There are times when I have conversations with certain individuals (cough cough, Mama) and I feel bad for being so emotionless. But then, I can turn around and have a similar conversations with friends who are going through it b/c they allowed too much of their emotions to get involved, while the other person was ‘emotionally unavailable’ and *bam*…problems ensue.

So what do you do? Seriously…what do you and how do you proceed? You can’t always live your life guarded but it’s being proven that throwing caution to the wind is not a good option either.

For now, I de:tach….