Comments on: A Serious “Would You Rather”

By: Jade

Jade — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 07:00:31 +0000

This is a hard one. If it’s just an opinion you want to state, say it. Anyone that would disown you over an OPINION isn’t worth it anyway. HOWEVER, if you are stating this opinion and the person will feel judged, don’t do it. People have the right to make decisions for themselves, even if it is destructive or wrong. You, as a friend, should leave them the right to make that choice. You do NOT have to support the decision, but you can support THEM in whatever decision they make. Support them, that will shine through. Sounds like they need it.

By: Monica

Monica — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 03:51:43 +0000

I’d express myself. True friends know where your heart is. Even if it’s something they don’t want to hear, sooner or later they’ll realize what you’re saying is coming from love.

By: Luvvie

Luvvie — Mon, 14 Sep 2009 20:50:36 +0000

Thats a toughie. Watching a friend spiral out of control eats away at me because I take on their stress as my own. I wont have peace of mind until I said something.

By: Alexis

Alexis — Mon, 14 Sep 2009 01:13:59 +0000

idk… didnt read the entire entry yet. but!!! i thought you updated your tagline thingy everyday but you actually have an automated type thing for everytime someone refreshes the page it shows a different phrase!! thats tight!!! back to the vma’s bye!!

By: Camille

Camille — Sun, 13 Sep 2009 23:30:04 +0000

I had to take that risk, but it was after I let the spiral go too far. I held my tongue out of fear of losing the friendship, for I knew how things would go down if I said how I felt. He preferred a friend that went along with everything, he was that friend. But I am a true believer that if you really love and care for someone you will tell them something that they need to hear, regardless of how bad it hurts. I lost my friend, and I know in my heart it was a combination of the waiting to speak, and the realness of what I said. However, if it can help him get it together and be the man and the father he needs to be, then it was worth the loss.

By: carrah

carrah — Sun, 13 Sep 2009 22:04:54 +0000

If I feel at the time that I want to say it, that they are not ready to or I am risking the friendship then I would wait for a moment that it may be more of a chance for them to take in what I am saying. I definetely wouldnt want a friend in need to feel like I am “against” them and leave b/c then I would REALLY be worried.