Comments on: Personal Thoughts, Re: Mashonda/Swizz/Alicia

By: JUJU

JUJU — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 21:49:47 +0000

Well said. I was irked by some of the comments that I seen

By: Elle B.

Elle B. — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 19:04:54 +0000

I know what it’s like to have a female try to get your man who knows good and well he’s yours! Not only because he’s told her and everyone you know in common knows, but all three of us were in the same organizations. Saw each other just about everyday. She tried for a good two years to come between us but thank the Lord he’s smart enough to know that I’m too good a thing to lose. Plus she’s a major downgrade, and I’m not just saying that because I have something against her. He’s my fiancee now and I’ll be darned if I let her passes slide now. I was civil then, but now…. don’t try me. Love ya Jia. Keep up the good posts. You know I just about schedule reading these? lol

By: Kay

Kay — Sun, 27 Sep 2009 15:45:08 +0000

Thank you Jia! I was so frustrated with some of the women response that I saw on any blog that posted the twit from Mashonda.
I hate the whole “she don’t owe you anything” or “let him go.” Really? We as women know we are so sensitive, and when it comes to each other, we can be so unsensitive. Yes, the majority of the blame goes on her husband. But AK knew that they were married. Even if they had problems, that doesn’t give the right for the “other woman” to step it and say oh well..
That’s bullshit. That whole she don’t owe you anything I believe comes from those insensitive women who don’t respect a couple’s relationship. Get you a man that is not in a relationship. Karma is something I truely believe in. And nothing good would come out good of that relationship.. It may not be now, it can be years later. I was dissappointed in AK. Yea, I don’t know the circumstances but Swizz and Mashonda was married. It would of been different if the seperation was mutual. But Mashonda knew nothing about it..smh.
It’s just too much for me. I’ve been there so I know how she feels. Just as women we need to respect each others feelings

By: Shelia

Shelia — Sun, 27 Sep 2009 03:11:41 +0000

Girl you hit the nail on the head with this one! It takes 2 ppl to cross the line but as a woman, its your duty to fall back especially when you know that man does not and will not belong to you. Alicia Keys always singing about empowering our young girls and dedicating songs to single mothers yet her real life does not represent that of which she is singing. She needs to be a woman and own to up to what she did.

By: El_Bougie1

El_Bougie1 — Sun, 27 Sep 2009 02:35:53 +0000

This is a sad situation. People will say Mashonda shouldn’t be doing XYZ, but as long as she isnt busting windows I feel like she can address the situation,she is the wronged party. While it is indeed Swizz’s responsibility to uphold his vows, we as women need to stop feeling as though we have no duty to respect a union, but expect to ever have one. Even if Alicia wanted Swizz,she should have stepped back,stopped all contact & let him either fix or dissolve his marriage. That is what a respectable woman would do. You do not sing about Karma, A Woman’s Worth,Unbreakable, yet you putting out negative Karma, contributing to the demise of a woman’s worth and breaking up a marriage. It just does not work that way. As I stated before, separated is MARRIED with issues and we need to learn to respect unions if we ever expect to have one ourselves

By: Danielle

Danielle — Sun, 27 Sep 2009 00:13:36 +0000

I have been on both sides of the fence. When I was cheated on, was I mad at the other chick? Hell yeah. But did I go to her saying ‘you knew we were together, how could you?’ Hell no. He is the one who was supposedly committed to me, not her. I definitely believe Alicia was wrong, but at the same time Swizz is the ass in this situation that broke his vows. As we have come to know, everybody doesn’t share the same values as the rest of us. Unfortunately some people feel as though they can lay claim to whatever they want. I was in a situation where a chick was trying to come between my relationship. She would flirt with him and every other man we worked with, so he would tell me it wasn’t serious. I told him I didn’t like what I was seeing and to decide whether he would continue to let her flirt,or put her in her place. My issue wasn’t her flirting, it was whether or not he responded to it. That doesn’t change the fact that I couldn’t stand her ass, but I never once addressed her. I felt like it was his job. Even though she pissed me off, I refused to appear vulnerable or let her know she was getting to me. I had that ‘never let ‘em see you sweat’ mentality. He made his choice and we are still together. And if a similar situation arises in the future, I will still hold him mostly, if not fully, responsible.