Comments on: The Same Way You Get Him…

By: Big Sexy

Big Sexy — Fri, 25 Dec 2009 03:08:33 +0000

Jia, when you get a chance – can you talk about jelousy among friends. My boyfriend was totally single when we met and married and actually stayed together 7yrs b4(being nice) i let a friend move in who was having financial trouble. My mom warned me never to leave my man alone w/her but in my head – we were sisters(10+yr friendship)and besides, she couldn’t stand my hubby so say. Long story short – they ended up messing around for like 3mos and i happened to find out b/c of a comment her daughter told me. She told me she would have never thought to be with my hubby but she felt like she deserved him more than me because i didn’t pay him attention – my fault for having a career and goals. But i think something should be written and discussed about females. it’s said we as women don’t want to deal with each other as it is and here is one prime example why.

By: MizPhatty

MizPhatty — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 03:59:22 +0000

I love this entry (and you Jia). A lot of us don’t learn from going through things like this. You showed your “grown woman” by letting him be where he be. Why is it that a lot us can’t see that if you got your man/woman by “taking” him/her from another chick that more than likely they’re gonna do the same to us. There rules I think when you’re trying to find that person FOR YOU, and I think one of the main ones is: make sure he’s COMPLETELY single!

By: Brittney

Brittney — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 04:58:40 +0000

UHN!!! yall I started chilling with this dude that my homie that was cute. Innocent at first… I’d known this dude for like 4 years (he is my cousins friend)we had both gotten out of horrible relationships this summer and started spending a lot of time together. Well feelings developed and i told my homegirl that me and dude had been chilling. On my B-day she spazzed out because she felt that me and dude was wrong for dancing on each other because she was digging him first and she felt as though i was throwing it up in her face. Well me and dude fell out because I ended up giving him some and i regretted it. He wanted some more and I told him NO!!! He had a bitch fit and said that I lead him on, I knew that he had been feeling me for a while and blah blah blah. Plus there were too many people involved in our “situation”. I regret this whole ordeal because: My homegirl and I’s relationship hasnt been the same since, I lost dude as a friend and he was cool to chill with, and I know I feel uncomfortable chillin with my peeps because I know he will be there. I learned a valuable lesson… Continue to sit on my cookies!!!

By: Ericka

Ericka — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 20:16:41 +0000

OMGosh! Miss Jia I just had a talk about this. I had been diggin this guy for so long but i RESPECTED the fact that he was LIVING with his girlfriend. (this was also during my college years). They broke up and he moved back home. We began talking and he ended up moving back down here to be with me. So we moved in together (shacking up is NEVER the way to go. I also learned that in the process). Life was GREAT! To me it felt as if we were the perfect match. Then long story short he got incarcerated for 2 days, and the ex girlfriend SPENT the night at the jail, was the first face he saw, etc. Told him that I was no where to be found (even though I’m the one that bailed him out). I just wasn’t there when he was released because I didnt know he was being released at 2 AM. So he goes home with her, breaks up with me because I didn’t ride for him, etc. Now they have a child together, but they aren’t together anymore. He tells all his boys how he messed up and everything else, and wants me back. I respect the code and the fact that no matter what he tells me or anyone else he is STILL with that girl! Now I always wonder.. if she respected the code where would she be now?

By: hisprosody

hisprosody — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 20:15:42 +0000

Jia, Imma need you to gon’s and start a writing club or some shit… You’re writing/lessons r the biz…

By: Ashley

Ashley — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 18:42:55 +0000

total truth why some simple ass girls dont get it i dont know