How many of you have ever stayed in a situation because it was comfortable for you?
It could be a job, relationship, friendship…whatever…but you knew that it was a situation that may not have been the best b/c, for the moment, it’s what suited you?
I had a very interesting conversation with a good friend that reminded me of a situation of my own. Just curious if any of you would like to share.
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I have been in a “comfortable” situation with my son’s father for five years now. I dont want to spend my life with him. We really dont love each other. For the moment it is comfortable for me and him. I hate to admit it, but I am a little dependant on him. I am working on my situation so I dont have to be so dependant on him but until Im done, he will just have to do.
beautifulblackgirl:my job I hate it and we only get paid once a month ($1,000) and I just received my masters degree but I like getting up and going to a job trying to make money
KJ:Yeah, for me it’s going to school. I’m 19 years old and want to learn a skill before I move to New York City. The only thing that is getting me through is believing in myself and having hope. If you don’t have hope, why the fuck live?
slo:yes, for six years now I’ve been involved with this guy. I’ve been hurt so much trying to be the right thing to everyone… to eliminate the hurt I just narrowed it down to him. It always seems as though I put my home in being the right one so I try to make it work but to no avail. I just wanted his company because it seemed so much better than being alone. I realized that it was taking away from me spiritually and emotionally. So I stopped…I’m still wanted to be with him every now and again but for two months I haven’t… pray for me!
WellDamn24:I’ve been stuck in this way of living that isn’t bad, but certainly isn’t as fulfilling as it should be.
Sometimes when you’re a fighter, like me, you don’t recognize the behavior of hiding. I fought so hard to get a good job and to be able to afford a lifestyle that I wanted and feel free of some of the stresses of survival that I didn’t realize that socially I was hiding out. My head was completely in the sand. Folks would reach out to me and I would push their hands away.
I understand that it was about control, but I find that many times when you stay in a situation that is comfortable but not the best for you that its what you can control and that control can be worth more than the toxicity of the job, friendship, etc.