Relationships + Titles
I’m in a funky mood today and the only thing to sort of take my mind off of it is to work and “journal.” Keep in mind that the following is not the reason for my bad mood; however, the subject matter attributes to an annoyance. It is what it is. Post your thoughts.
Oprah & Grooming
Although this is the last season of Oprah, she has really been bringing it. Don’t get me wrong. She’s always had powerful shows but for the most part, I’ve always felt that her shows were more for white soccer moms who didn’t work but instead, stayed home with their children.
Sooo today I tuned in to Oprah’s show where she had an audience of 200+ men who had been molested when they were children.
After Blogging For ALMOST 18 Months…
I have a couple thoughts. These are just my experiences/thoughts and probably won’t mimic everyone else’s but shit…this is also my blog. It’s not meant to.
The Email I NEVER Answered…
…but for some reason, I managed to save it.
I was going through one of my email boxes and clearing out old messages in folders that I had long forgotten about. While going through all the pictures (and OMG did I find some good pics lol), email interactions, order confirmations, etc., I chanced upon this email. It came from a guy who I ONLY knew online but he was always “interesting” to me. No, not interesting in a sexual way but in a way that kept my attention. He had a really good blog (not sure if it’s still up) about sex, his sexual experiences, tips, etc. This was back in the days when folks actually gave a damn and READ blogs that weren’t just about celebrities, sports and bullshit. Nonetheless, I’m going to post the email here. I think that during the time that this email was sent, I was going through a point in my life where I wasn’t quite ready to deal with my mistakes. His email pretty much put the spotlight on me and made me face it. It’s like I was an open book and he read me in a few short lines.
I never did tell him thanks for being so spot on. Maybe I’ll give him a special shout in my story….
I LOVE a Good Analogy
Relationship Hates: Perfect
Even though I haven’t been involved in one in over 4 years, I’ve dated along the way. The things people say….
-”I’m not perfect.”
No one asked you to be. Understand that there is a HUGE grey area between being a total fuck up and being perfect. Find that happy medium and strive on being better. Perfection resides in no one but better always has a home.
Consistently saying that you’re not perfect (at least in MY eyes) says to me that you feel my expectations of you are too high when I’m only asking for fairness. It also says that you’ll use those words as a crutch so that when you do mess up, you have something to fall back on.
Again, there’s this HUGE grey area between being a total fuck up and perfect. It’s impossible for anyone to be the latter and if you lean too much towards the former, you’re not the one for me.
Those who meet somewhere in the middle with the willingness to rise to the top make my heart smile.